How do you introduce your slave to your mother? What address do you put on a letter to your brother and his male lover? How can a butch lesbian get proper service in the men's department? What's the best way to handle it if you mistakenly call your transgendered friend by the wrong pronoun?

You're not going to find answers to questions like these in Emily Post or Miss Manners -- but you are in the first etiquette book for and about the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered communities. Witty, realistic and occasionally slightly scandalous advice for the situations we all encounter in today's marvelously complex world.


Drew Campbell is a courteous and learned female-to-male transsexual. His wedding invitations were absolutely elegant.


The Bride Wore Black Leather


... And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us

Drew Campbell, illus. Donna Barr

"If you're curious or queer, or know someone who is, this book is an ideal place to start your education... 'The Bride Wore Black Leather' defines a need we didnt even know we had - for an altsex etiquette guide - by the simplest possible expedient: filling it." - William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author, "Consensual Sadomasochism