Coming in October!
Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities
While plenty of other books explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book devoted to kink culture - the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community.
You’ll learn to:
• Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires
• Ease your way into established communities
• Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities
• Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you
• Care for your relationships as you explore new territory
• Negotiate for play and aftercare
• Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers
• …and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?!
The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white
and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the “community” aspect of the kink lifestyle.
What the experts are saying
“Congratulations! What you hold in your hands may just be the most thorough and up-to-date book illuminating the multifaceted world of BDSM and kink. Mollena and Lee take you on a step-by-step journey where nothing is taboo!” – Cléo Dubois, Academy Of SM Arts
“This intriguing book is destined to be a BDSM classic. Everyone from raw beginners through jaded lifestylers will learn something new, and non-involved friends and family will have many of their fears allayed.” – Charles Moser, PhD, MD, Professor and Chair, Department of Sexual Medicine, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality
"The first book to completely address the most important steps in negotiating the brave new kink world – how to find it, pick what part you want to explore, talk to the natives and join in the fun!" – Laura Antoniou, The Marketplace series
“Plenty of resources tell you how to find your local BDSM community, but very few help you once you get there. This book is packed with tips about what to expect, how to communicate, and how to behave in different kinky situations.” —Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge
About the authors
Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on human sexuality and sacred experience. He has been an academic and an adult film performer, is a kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirituality since 1998. Read more about Lee at passionandsoul.com.
Mollena (Mo) Williams is a native New Yorker, performer, actor, award-winning writer and BDSM educator. She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009. Consciously kinky since 1993 and active in leather and BDSM since 1996, she travels extensively, speaking on topics including kink, BDSM, power exchange relationships and negotiating it all safely. Read more about Mollena at The Perverted Negress, Mollena.com.